Yes I have been sexually harassed, and this post is not about making fun of women complaining about being badly treated. It's important to respect boundaries.
The last relationship I was in was abusive.
When you are a man, but using physical strength to balance power is not an option, then you can be sexually abused even by someone who is 15 kilograms short of muscles compared to you. I should have left but I had my whole lot of good and bad reasons to stay.
Abuse was complete absence of respect of my boundaries. I normally enjoy making love when it works well with a good emotional connection, but even though I was younger than I am today, when it happens on average twice per day, you can get a bit fed up, especially when you are never given the time you need to feel desire before you have to perform again...
Being pestered again and again and again is harassment. It is violence.
The choice I had was resisting by means of arguing, shouting, running outside.... or just letting the demanding hands getting me mechanically ready to perform so as to be done with it as quickly as possible.
As I am quite intuitive, I felt I was used as a kind of barrier between her and some kind of unbearable void. |Her behavior was compulsive. There was not much of a human connection in the process.
I remember one night, I was reading a very good novel, as you do in bed before putting the light off, but she kept interrupting my reading with such impatience I couldn't enjoy the end of the chapter. I jumped out of bed, put my clothes on and went walking outside. It was winter and freezing cold. She ran after me in a panic. I still see her, running bare feet, in an white bath robe floating around her, in the dark and desert street. She just couldn't bear not being permanently held, fucked, kissed...
I had my own bad and good reasons to stay. I have never been into any other relationship ever since.
Without respect no closeness is possible.