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To heal fear, I suggest starting with healing the shame we may feel for being fearful.  Feeling fear and shame is too much. We should tackle only one at a time!  Without shame, confronting our fears will be much easier. We may need to approach the scary stuff one little step at a time. We may need a lot of time. We’ll be able to make progress very slowly without feeling horrible about ourselves. We won’t try to bully ourselves into throwing ourselves at the deep end and fail for not being prepared enough. We’ll be kind to ourselves. We may even laugh!   It’s true that in some cases, all that's needed is to muster some courage, push ourselves and move forward. Sometimes, the fear is not so deep, so immense and so intense that it can’t be overcome this way. Sometimes, what we have to confront is not that unknown, we are not that unprepared, we had opportunities to build up our confidence before… We can push forward and win!  However, in other cases, let’s be humble, it’s just too muc

  When we explore dark feelings, we often find out that they are reactions to some underlying pain, which can be another dark feeling.  Rage and anger are reactions. A moment of anger may be a boost of energy that helps break through an obstacle. If anger settles in the long term, that’s a sign that a feeling of powerlessness has probably grown roots in the psyche. We feel the anger. We don’t have enough energy to confront the problem (which may not even be clearly identified) but keeping the anger alive is not as bad as feeling like a complete loser in despair. Anger may even serve us as an illusion of power. Our deeper feeling of powerlessness can be suppressed.  (Reconnecting with the dark goo at the bottom of our feeling pit is not an enjoyable experience, but healing is the purpose)  We may feel powerless for various reasons. One may be that we haven’t been able to overcome some fears. Fear is paralysing. In its grip we are powerless. We may also avoid feeling the fear, because it